Wednesday, November 19, 2008

A Quick Word for Those in Waiting

A quick note to those of us interested in one day having a relationship, but are still sitting on the sidelines and to those who are trying to get back on that horse.

If you truly want to share your love with someone, don't wait. You will make mistakes. You will fail. You will cry. It will hurt sometimes. But it is also one of the most glorious, fulfilling and exciting things you'll ever have the pleasure of doing. Risk is an unavoidable part of life. You're scared of what could happen, that's totally understandable. You're afraid of failing or of succeeding. Why would someone be interested in ME? How could someone totally be into just hanging out with me? Want to love me? Care about what I do and what I think? What if all they want is my body? To tell you the truth, it is kind of weird, even shocking, to realize someone is content just to stare into your eyes. But, when it's genuine, it's amazing. So, you've put a lot of thought into this. You've convinced yourself that you have too many quirks to succeed. You're too busy to cultivate a meaningful relationship. Well, what if you're wrong? Reality is always different from what we predict. It will surprise you how much so, actually. You'll surprise yourself, too. As you think back to all the reasons against having a relationship, I'll bet you honestly feel at least a little differently about most or all of them if not outright disagree with some of them. We all need to take our own time in life and love. No one can criticize you for doing so no matter your reason and it's probable that the time you're taking to learn about yourself will really help when/if you choose to take the plunge. If you don't want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend, that's totally cool. But, if you're reading this, you're at least considering it. The reality is if you truly wish to share the infinite love you possess with another, you'll be kicking yourself the longer you wait. We don't have an infinite amount of life and it would suck if you didn't get to experience a loving relationship or didn't get to share it for very long. Besides, it's too difficult to find a good match to delay! Just be sure that no matter what you're not holding yourself back out of fear. Fear will limit you and for absolutely no good reason. There are people out there looking to pass their unhealthy habits on to you. That's a nice way of saying there are people who want to use you. That's scary, but you can protect yourself by being vigilant and realistic. If you do get hurt, use the experience to firm up your defenses and to improve yourself. Trust your gut, but don't let fear hold you back. Be honest with yourself. Forgive yourself. Love yourself. Love is always inside you and no one can take it away. We all have quirks, issues and foibles. You're not abnormal, you are unique. You have power and independence. You can do anything that you decide to do. You may have to modify your methods along the way or perhaps your goals will change some, but nothing can stop you if you're dedicated. Society would have you believe otherwise, but the self is important. You are important. You are capable. You are beautiful. You are good. And, you are not alone.

Good luck out there!

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